The mystery behind celebrity divorces is something that needs attention with the attention it receives these days. The most topical issue that everyone wants to hear and talk about is divorce, be it of a celebrity or the guy next door. Talking about it in positive ways or in the obvious trending ways of what makes us laugh about something that isn’t funny.
In the spirit of promoting good mental health to everyone, this story attempts to explain why people divorce from an angle that you have never encountered, and knowing this will help you keep that man or empress forever. The four biological systems—dopamine/norepinephrine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen/oxytocin—each linked to a specific set of personality traits help to explain why some people divorce while others remain happily married, as part of our mental health tips.
It is very difficult to talk about divorce before clearing the air on what love is, and without this explanation, the whole story becomes obnoxious. Love is a set of emotions and behaviors identified by intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness, protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust. Love can vary in intensity and can change over time. It is associated with a range of positive emotions, including happiness, excitement, life satisfaction, and euphoria, but it can also result in negative emotions such as jealousy and stress.
How do you measure love, becomes a story of another day as, regardless of being one of the most studied behaviors, it is still the least understood? Therefore, this short story will be explaining people’s personalities based on relationships, as this is what can be easily measured and checked.
These relationships lead people to marry and live together, but what is it that is called a relationship? It is a continuous and consistently unswerving association between two or more people, as in a family, friendship, marriage, partnership, or other interpersonal link in which the participants have some degree of influence on each other’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. Divorce is the removing of oneself or removal of one from this interconnectedness that makes it a relationship, and this is better understood to come as a result of personality clashes or inter-competitiveness.
Before you get confused by these overused yet wrongly interpreted terms, personality simply means a combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual’s distinctive character. We are talking about what forms your partner, husband or wife, their unique self. And we all have two parts to our personalities that are in constant interaction: culture (which is what your upbringing teaches you to believe, do, and say) and temperament (which comes from your biology, genes, hormones, and neurotransmitters).
Yes, the temperament section, which includes the four biological systems, helps us understand a person better, which helps to reduce divorces for those who are already married and opens eyes to make better choices for those who are still making decisions. These four biological systems—dopamine/norepinephrine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen/oxytocin—are each linked to a particular suite of personality traits not only in humans but also in doves, lizards, and monkeys as revealed by studies.
The question then becomes, how do you get to know your personality or partner’s and the characteristics that form them? The terms are better explained with examples to help you appreciate how life experiences happen to different people in life regardless of cultural socialization. We call them the hidden mystery as not many people opt to approach therapists for premarital counselling, as this is the place all these issues are tackled. Most people think they will be wasting their time but remember you need a trained professional to help you construct a better foundation to your marriage than to do repairs.
The first class consists of people who express certain genes in the dopamine system. These people tend to be curious, creative, spontaneous, energetic, and mentally flexible. They are risk-takers and go after novelty (newness). They can be called explorers as they tend to be curious, creative, extemporaneous, daring, risk-taking, enthusiastic and independent. They like eccentricity and adventure; they think outside the box and inspire. They make good entrepreneurs, artists, and entertainers, as well as charismatic leaders.
Looking at all these characteristics, it’s either you or your husband is part of it, and yet this can be regarded as a problem if you don’t know how to deal with it, but an advantage given that you get to understand your partner better because failure will lead to incompatibility. It all comes down to how you continuously and steadfastly influence your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and actions to keep the relationship intact.
The second set of people are those that have high serotonin activity (or who take SSRI antidepressants). They’re quite traditional in their values and less inclined toward exploration, but more sociable and more eager to belong. They tend to be customary, conventional, and cautious (but not scared); they observe social norms. They follow rules, respect authority, enjoy making plans and schedules, and are conscientious and risk-averse.
They are concrete and logistical thinkers who focus on the details and the process; they are stabilizers. This is when, as a man, you are often reminded by the elders that you now need to marry and have someone who can help you stabilize your life because finding such a person will be getting the builder in your life. However, this can also be a man and people who grew up with your partner saying, “She finally found someone who gave her stability.” In the street, they say, “murume akamudzikamisa, yaiva mhepo.“
In a nutshell, this means that a person would have found one that best complements their personality. However, with a little misunderstanding, the real person would easily jump into character, showing the real persona, “ini chihera handinzwaro,“ because the real personality won’t disappear by finding a partner that compliments you. For one to better compliment your partner, it needs better adjustment and a better understanding of how best you influence the best out of the relationship you have. Consequently, that’s what makes you a team.
This can be simplified by saying, two people combine to make one person with an inconvincible character, but the moment they stop complementing each other, it collapses. Consequently, this compatibility desires genuineness, not acting, because for a marriage to last, people should be true to their character as acting is tiring.
Thirdly, people expressive of the testosterone system are tough-minded, direct, decisive, skeptical, and assertive. They tend to be good at what we call rule-based systems—engineering, computers, mechanics, math, and music. These men and women tend to be analytical, logical, direct, tough-minded, emotionally contained, rank-oriented and competitive, as well as experimental and excellent at understanding “rule-based systems.”
They are strategic thinkers and commanding leaders and are often referred to as directors as they tend to lead and possess the calmness and decisiveness required to excel. Getting to understand this helps you to be there for your partner in a supportive role and avoid a clash of characters, but propels you to success by taking advantage of who they are and whom you are.
In so many families, there are people who are known for their ability to plan, analyze, and lead successful ideas to such an extent that when we plan, we always say this is their department. It takes that recognition to put a person where they perform best, and imagining these two characters marring each other will be disastrous as both of them will need to plan.
Quarrels in their homes will be the order of the day, and quarrelling is listed as one of the utmost reasons that drive people separately. Hence, the ego in each tells you that you are being undermined. Hence, no one is undermining each other, but they are two strong characters that are not supposed to be together or compromise with each other to be functional. Failure to honor this simple yet so important life hack leads to divorce, as from one crack to another, the gap will keep growing until one feels the toxicity of the other.
Lastly, there is also a group of expressive people of the estrogen/oxytocin system. These people tend to be intuitive, imaginative, trusting, empathetic, and contextual long-term thinkers. They are sensitive to people’s feelings, too, and typically have good verbal and social skills. They are good at reading postures, gestures, facial expressions, and tones of voice. And they excel at people skills, being intuitive, insightful, trusting, empathetic and nurturing.
These are the people often referred to as negotiators. They are patient and very good at choosing the right words to use. This trait is important as much as all the others are, as they help you to know when to back down and advance your issues. This helps to put across your ideas without offending, challenging or demeaning anyone. However, getting out of this character would mean confusion in the camp. The person with such a character will, however, be required to always live in the character.
Given all this, we can be flexible to a certain extent and act out of character, but it is tiring and this is the reason why people will tell you that you have tried to be this and this for him/her, hence it did not work. However, when it comes to marriage, it is important to know your personality and your partner’s so that you happen to play a role as your best self for the team you are playing for.
A number of celebrities’ lives are most likely to be either two dopamine systems together, which won’t get tired of exploring the world because that’s who they are or can easily get tired of oldness. And such recipes often lead to separation. However, a builder can find themselves in a relationship with an explorer, but knowing when to exercise their influence over the other personality tends to form a great partnership.
These justifications originate from a thoughtful study by Fisher as she equates the four styles of thinking and behaving to have evolved in hunter-gatherer societies over many millennia for a reason. Imagine a group of people in Africa, hundreds of thousands of years ago, walking together to look for a new camp. Suddenly, they find some mushrooms. You can’t have only high-dopamine types, because they’d all try the mushrooms and maybe be poisoned. You need some high-serotonin types to say, “We shouldn’t do this; it’s not in our tradition”; some high-testosterone types to say, “Let’s experiment:
Feed the mushrooms to the dog and see what happens”; and some high-estrogen types to say, “Let’s discuss what we know about these mushrooms. “We evolved to think differently so that we could put our heads together and come up with good solutions. Complementary styles of thinking make a team more effective. Unfortunately, it seems that people in relationships tend to only think about themselves or tend to take advantage of others which always leads to divorcing hence we all need to strike a balance in life.
After all has been stated and explained, it is crucial to remember that any relationship is vulnerable to disruption from outside factors (environment). As always, our environment has a significant impact on how we develop. Given the way that celebrities live, it is crucial that they always put their families first. You may be wondering how this may be done. Most of the time, the industry they work in will be one where alcohol and drugs are readily available, and as was already established, and the combination of personalities with drugs and drunkenness will always be disastrous. Without considering the persona, the fact that a person’s judgment is impaired when they are intoxicated indicates even their relationships are not secure.
Imagine being a prominent figure at a time when cell phone surveillance means that there is absolutely no privacy. Even though it must be a difficult task, the fact that others are living it shows that it is feasible. Everybody is scrutinized to an extreme degree in this age of smartphones, and social media, which makes up stories about those seeking power, feeds the fire. This is frequently stressful, and your wife or husband will be reading and taking it all in, which causes strain in your marriage.
Additionally, there is a persistent temptation because people want to approach superstars, and for certain people, it is quite difficult to refuse. For other celebrities, though, using scandals to gain notoriety has become a habit. They manufacture stories and create scandals, placing their reputation and wealth ahead of their loved ones. And such people are more concerned with maintaining their reputation than maintaining relationships. After all has been said, the focus shifts back to the person’s identity, personality, and demeanor. What can prevent you from living a private and ordinary life if other superstars can? If you lack self-confidence, surround yourself with strong moral role models and act accordingly.